An SP Success Story (+Getting Rid of a Third Party)

I hesitated to write up this post for a long time, and mostly for one reason: while I got my manifestation, in the end I decided to not pursue the relationship with the specific person. I wondered for a pretty significant amount of time if I should share a manifestation that I chose of my own will to decline when it did come, or if my readers would want to hear me talk about a specific person that I no longer care about.

But I realized after some thought that there are still many things that can be learned from the story. And if I can help others understand the law by demonstrating how the events and my inner world played together to come to the end result, I think it is certainly worth telling.

How I Manifested Him to Think of Me as More Than a Friend

This is how I manifested a specific person to have feelings for me and got rid of a third party, all by ignoring the 3D and trusting that it would all work out for me.

I met this SP through a mutual friend group during the beginning of my journey into becoming a conscious creator. He was a friend of a friend, and we started hanging out on a weekly basis through that shared friend group. We got on very well as friends, had a similar sense of humor and a lot of shared interests.

I decided to manifest a relationship with him, while at the time our relationship was new and strictly platonic.

I did affirmations and visualizations when I thought of them, but at the end of the day I did not put a lot of effort into the process. I simply trusted, based on my beliefs about our compatibility.

I remember my mindset was: it just makes sense, so it’s only a matter of time until he sees it, too.

I didn’t pursue him, confess feelings, or do anything other than interact with him from a place of genuine interest. I allowed our relationship to remain platonic for as long as it needed to be, trusting that it would develop naturally and one day he would return my interest.

As they sometimes do, things got worse before they got better.

Creating (and Getting Rid of) the Third Party

My SP and I did in fact grow closer and closer as the weeks passed. We started communicating on a daily basis through text, all still platonically and from a place of simply enjoying each other’s company.

Then, SP indicated that he had feelings for a mutual friend of ours. To my dismay at the time, they started dating shortly after.

I’ll admit this didn’t feel good. I’d wanted my SP’s interest and attention, and he gave it to my friend, instead.

I think this is where successful manifesters differ from those who get failed manifestations. While the feeling kind of sucked, I did not stamp “the end” on the events and declare it a failed manifestation. Instead, I allowed myself to feel bad about the 3D, but kept my beliefs true.

I persisted though a lot of 3D, as we would still all hang out on a weekly basis. I had a lot of moments where I felt really awful about what was in front of me, as my SP and the 3P did all the honeymoon-phase couple-y things like kissing and cuddling while other friends and I were in the same room with them. Sometimes it sucked. Regardless, I persisted and trusted.

Even though this is happening, it is temporary. It is only a matter of time until SP sees that I am the one who is right for him.

In fact, this happening was still a direct reflection of my inner world. I realized through this happening that I had a weird complex about the friend he started dating, for several weeks before it happened. I thought she was very pretty and cool, and somehow ended up comparing myself rather than simply enjoying her friendship. The physical world showed me what my thoughts were, even the ones I wasn’t immediately aware of.

I started working on my self concept around these areas (not for SP, but because the unwanted manifestation identified an area for improving myself) and saw a lot of shift in my life in general. I persisted in the faith that “he will see,” and worked on my self concept in the meantime.

And it all started to shift incredibly fast.

How the Circumstances Around My SP Changed

One day, my SP came by to help with something at my house and to visit myself and my roommate at the time. When we finished the project we were working on, my SP said something unexpected that, based on 3D events, came completely out of left field.

“Man, 3P has just been absolutely awful lately.”

He vented for a while about toxic behaviors that were popping up in their relationship, fights they were having, and how her attitude in general was driving him crazy.

I tried not to show my astonishment while he was talking, and be present to listen to him vent. When he finally left, I couldn’t help but be a little pleased that things seemed to be shifting to match my inner world.

Over the next few weeks, SP started coming to me via text to vent any time he had an issue with the 3P. It wasn’t the only thing we talked about, but it was almost like he was giving me a play-by-play or progress report on the physical state of my manifestation.

All the while, our conversations outside of the topic started becoming increasingly flirtatious. It didn’t happen in a day, but conversations gradually got more and more intimate.

Eventually, he indicated quite casually that he was developing feelings for me. He started on a regular basis putting lines in the water to see if I would take action on any of his more serious flirting.

I decided at the time to not do anything about it yet, as the state of his current relationship was messy and I didn’t want to give any friends a reason to resent me.

After a few more weeks, my SP and the 3P broke up officially, and I became the person SP held closest in his immediate circle.

Things went from “no feelings, and there’s a third party,” to “he likes me and broke up with his girlfriend,” in a few months, all by trusting that the end result was mine no matter how things looked to the naked eye.

Why I Declined My Manifestation

Although I could have jumped on my manifestation at any time, I ended up postponing for some time with the excuse that I didn’t want to upset my friend, the 3P.

But the thing is, after some time I realized that I wasn’t actually that enthusiastic about the SP as a partner when the opportunity was delivered to me on a silver platter. I knew that I could have a relationship with him if I wanted, but I just ended up not wanting it.

To me, that’s okay. Sometimes you think you want something and it turns out to not be as enjoyable as you thought it might. You are allowed to change your mind while manifesting, and that is not a failure.

I ended up deciding to keep this SP as a friend after all, though I did enjoy manifesting the opportunity to have a relationship if that was what I chose. I started reframing my beliefs about him and what our relationship was meant to be, and after some time reality conformed to the new desires instead.

Although I do think SP still has some feelings for me, the last I heard he ended up getting back together with the third party, and I have no reason not to allow that.

Even though I ended up turning down my SP when the time came, I think this story is still a great demonstration of how trust can be a powerful engine to bring about our desires. When we trust that a desire is our birthright, it eventually comes offered up to us no matter the circumstances.

At that point, it is up to our personal choice to either take what is offered, or make a new selection entirely.