How I Quickly Got Rid of the Third Party

I’ve mentioned before that I’m a polyamorous person. My experience being polyamorous has given me a lot of opportunities to tinker with the law as it applies to specific person manifestations. While I certainly intend to dive in deeper on this topic in the future, for now I have a personal success story that may provide some insights to people in a situation that includes a 3P, or third party.

For those who may be new to the law of attraction or Neville Goddard online community, or maybe those who just aren’t familiar with the internet terminology, a third party (abbreviated to 3P) is essentially a person who interferes in some way with your relationship with your specific person. This phrase is usually found in relation to romantic SPs, but can be applied to any relationship-type manifestation, really. It’s most commonly an SP’s troublesome ex or current bo.

Now, being polyamorous, my views on SPs is a little different from how most people experience them. In my eyes, my partner being interested in someone else doesn’t negate their feelings for me. Yes, there’s times where I do feel jealousy, but like the law, polyamory also teaches checking your own emotions, allowing yourself to feel them, and taking advocating for your needs while also taking responsibility. Though by no means am I saying polyamory is for everyone or objectively better than conscious monogamy, polyamory and the law of attraction are, oddly enough, highly compatible.

Given that 3Ps don’t really threaten my relationship with my partners, I usually just allow them to come in and out, and focus on manifesting the best metamours (poly lingo for the partners of my partners, or the “3Ps”) that I enjoy being around. I’ve made some amazing and incredibly supportive friends out of metamours! Needless to say, I don’t usually feel the need to “get rid of” anyone.

But, it has happened.

I have a wonderful partner that I care for very deeply. Unfortunately, he had a troublesome ex-girlfriend who had a whole cast of awful behaviors. They’d been on-again-off-again before I met him, and broke up for the last time a little while after he and I started seeing each other. When my partner and I started dating, she would stalk me online, tell their mutual friends that I “replaced” her (that’s not really how polyamory works…), and was overall convinced despite his protest that they would get eventually back together. When I say this, I do not mean the internal brazen impudence taught by Neville Goddard – I mean she would outwardly ignore his boundaries, to the point of bordering on harassment. Definitely not okay.

Her presence was more an annoyance than a threat to my relationship with him, but I had become uncomfortable enough that I decided it was best if she wasn’t involved in our lives at all – though I never met her, she was still in his orbit through mutual friends. It seemed like there was no way, given that fact, but I decided to apply the law to her presence.

I did visualizations of “releasing” the ex, telling her to go in peace and wishing her the best. Any time I had a thought of her, I would affirm that my partner put his boundaries down more firmly with her, and that she was no longer a concern. She was moving on to other things, things that were better for her, and for us. I persisted in this, regardless of what my partner said, or what any other part of my 3D showed me.

In a matter of weeks, I learned that the 3P decided to move to another state to go to college there. Out of the blue. In a few months, she wouldn’t even be living in the same state as us.

What’s more, I also learned that their mutual friends were growing tired of her always complaining – and because of this they were also starting to lessen the amount of time they spent with her. Her presence in his – and therefore my – social orbit was greatly reduced as an effect of this.

Lastly, and the most impressive of all, is that in the midst of a “bad day” relating to a completely different part of his life, my partner decided on his own that it was time. He wrote out a long message putting his foot down that he was not interested in getting back together, ever. When he told me about it, he said that he’d been trying to be nice, but he needed to be direct because “after she moves, I’m not really interested in seeing her again.”

Just like that, all the problems solved themselves. The 3P was moving on to other things, and she was no longer going to have access to my partner or myself.

When you’re faced with a third party, it’s easy to demonize them or get so deep in lack that you blame them for your problems. This is never the way. Even though my 3P was problematic in her own way, and has a lot of growing to do as a person, it was love for her that moved mountains. I released her with love, and I intend that she will find happiness in another place.